This week on Real Talk with Rachael I’m talking with Megan Lacefield. Serving as a Marriage & Family Pastor for years, Megan has seen God work miracles in many marriages, starting with her own. Though she and the love of her life, Chad, started off shaky they landed on solid ground and have been running full steam ever since. With a daughter, Chandler(21), and son Riley (18), their family has shared with thousands their story of redemption, grace, and celebrating God’s goodness in the little things. Recently she stepped out in faith into a new season to pursue the dream God put inside her to speak and write. Megan’s heart is that the spoken words or written words found in Everyday Pearls capture the snapshot of His love through even the smallest details of our lives. Strong and bold is Megan’s message of hope for those who feel lost in the shuffle and insignificant in the eyes of God.
Key Points from Our Conversation:
- Megan’s revelation that she was raising her grandkid’s parents shifted and shaped how she and her husband were doing marriage.
- We don’t have the option to quit in the middle of our marriage. Remember that you were intentionally designed with different strengths. We must work in rhythm and know our individual roles.
- Quit quitting on God, yourself, and each other. Marriage is not 50/50, you both have to give 100% of yourself.
- “If you don’t remember where you came from, you won’t have the strength and courage to move where God wants you to be.”
- Defining the goals you’re moving toward will take time to develop. Ask each other and your kids what is most important to them. Ask God where He wants to lead you. Destinations are unique.
- 3 questions to craft a family mission statement – What words do you want to describe your family? What do you want your family legacy to be? What’s most important to you?
- When God is calling you to something different, give yourself grace in the discomfort. We lean into God in the discomfort. You don’t have to be okay.
- Be the community you need. Show up for people. Those investments do not return void.
- If you’re questioning if someone should be part of your community, ask how you feel after you spend time with them. Do they make you feel closer to God? It’s okay if you’re not moving in the same direction.
- Sometimes relationships require additional effort. If you feel a burden for someone, ask them what they need and keep asking until they accept the help.
Let’s Get Real Practical:
Take a walk with your spouse and try asking these 3 questions – How do you think I’m doing? How do you think we’re doing? What do you need from me?