This week on Real Talk with Rachael I’m chatting with my friend, Sandy Jobe. Sandy is a homemaker who loves to laugh and uses baking as a form of stress release. She is known for her quick wit, bubbly personality, and ability to brighten someone’s day with a homemade treat. She’s the author of a cookbook titled Hearts Gather Here: Making Memories Around the Table – it’s full of great recipes and inspiring family stories. Sandy is also the Women’s Ministries Care Pastor at Gateway Church in Southlake, TX. She and her husband Mark have 3 grown and married children and 5 grandsons.
Key Points from Our Conversation:
- Having a healthy marriage takes two people. That means you have you do your part and allow the Lord to work on your husband.
- It’s easier to blame others instead of owning our mistakes. Pray for your spouse. What we get frustrated by most with them is likely something we wrestle with ourselves.
- Having a community you can be vulnerable with about your marriage and family struggles is key because it’s easy to look at social media and believe the lie everyone’s marriage is perfect except yours. Comparison is crippling.
- If you want to change your marriage, be the change agent. Look for practical ways to serve one another.
- The most common problems in marriage arise over unmet unexpressed expectations. Continue to invest in your marriage by utilizing tools like podcasts, marriage conferences, and books.
- No matter what season you’re in, be grateful. Pray about everything – and everything means every little thing. Nothing is too small to bring to God.
- There is great value in taking time for the table. It creates an opportunity to look your loved ones in the eyes and connect with them.
- If your home is hectic and chaotic, you need to look at your own soul.
- We need to be responders, not reactors. If you want something to change, consider changing your verbiage. Ask God what’s in your heart that caused you to respond poorly. Step back and ask what your family needs.
Let’s Get Real Practical:
What are the little things you haven’t considered praying about? Commit to praying over those things this week. Don’t discount anything.