Ephesians 4:15, “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.”
Part one: What is confrontation and why do we need to do it regularly for healthy relationships?
Part two: The difference between confrontation and carefrontation.
Helpful confrontation:
- Perceived as legitimate
- Offers hope and practical solutions
- Delivered by persons who are trusted and respected
- Delivered by persons who are very relationally important to the person being confronted
Unhelpful confrontation:
- Hypocritical
- Overly hostile (angry)
- Occur within a tense or conflictual relationship
What makes a confrontation a “care-frontation”?
- Establish a good base relationship of mutual trust and caring.
- Be tentative (avoid the use of words like “always” and “never”)
- Use humor when appropriate.
- “Sandwich” the confrontation with empathy.
- Deal with actions instead of just words.
Practical tips:
- Pray before confronting.
- ask the holy spirit to give you the words to say.
- Make sure you are in a calm emotional state.
- Check your motives.
- Choose the time to confront wisely.
- Be prepared for a negative outcome even if you did your best to make a healthy confrontation. Trust the Lord to do the deep work.
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