Ephesians 4:15, “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.”

Part one:  What is confrontation and why do we need to do it regularly for healthy relationships?

Part two: The difference between confrontation and carefrontation.

Helpful confrontation:

  • Perceived as legitimate
  • Offers hope and practical solutions
  • Delivered by persons who are trusted and respected
  • Delivered by persons who are very relationally important to the person being confronted

Unhelpful confrontation:

  • Hypocritical
  • Overly hostile (angry)
  • Occur within a tense or conflictual relationship

What makes a confrontation a “care-frontation”?

  • Establish a good base relationship of mutual trust and caring.
  • Be tentative (avoid the use of words like “always” and “never”)
  • Use humor when appropriate.
  • “Sandwich” the confrontation with empathy.
  • Deal with actions instead of just words.

Practical tips:

  • Pray before confronting.
  • ask the holy spirit to give you the words to say.
  • Make sure you are in a calm emotional state.
  • Check your motives.
  • Choose the time to confront wisely.
  • Be prepared for a negative outcome even if you did your best to make a healthy confrontation. Trust the Lord to do the deep work.

Don’t forget to check out my 6 Communication Skills Guide!

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