This week on Real Talk with Rachael, I’m talking with Dr. Mary Dainty. Dr. Dainty is a fully licensed professional counselor (LPC) and a board-approved counselor supervisor. She operates a private practice in Fort Worth that focuses on trauma-related problems using EMDR. Additionally, Dr. Dainty works for Baylor Scott & White All Saints as a PRN intake and assessment clinician and is an adjunct professor at The King’s University in Southlake. When She’s not working, she loves to spend time with her husband and son. Her favorite past times include sitting outside with a warm cup of tea and chitchatting with friends in the court, traveling to see friends and family, and any opportunity where she can sit on the beach curling the sand between her toes.
Key Points from Our Conversation:
- EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) helps retrain the brain’s response to trauma by unblocking neurological pathways that help us process in a healthy way.
- EMDR is effective for both “small t traumas” (adverse events) and “big T traumas” (substantially traumatic events) that have happened at any point in your life. The number of sessions needed will vary for each person and everyone will require some sort of maintenance.
- Your brain has a phenomenal capacity to keep you safe. One of the ways it does this is by collecting information that might prevent harm in the future. However, it sometimes collects information that is not helpful, causing confusion.
- If you have tried therapy or EMDR before and it wasn’t effective for you or you had a bad experience, it’s worth trying again. Different counselors use different methods and our needs change with our seasons of life.
- As Christians, when something good happens as a result of an event, we don’t want to consider the event traumatic because we’ve been taught to “count it all joy.” However, it’s worth reexamining those events and processing any complex emotions so we can heal.